"If you work harder, you will get luckier" per Anita Sarawak dictum.

Dear W:

what happen? life never complete without challenges right? what a boring life if every time everything just happen so smooth and flat. if you said like that,then everyone also a loser. i also failed a lot of things before, and i do believe everyone does. it is normal to lose control sometimes, you know i also loss my temper before. we are just human.

i never give up if i want something. honestly telling you, i can take up to years to get what i want. i don't bother people say and talk. why care? just be yourself, so long as you don't hurt anyone. everyone for certain will face failure, either it is minor or major. the question is whether you can take it with open heart or just move backwards. take it as a challenge. if you can't make it, then how are you going to face if later you have another greater wave awaiting you?

no matter in works or study, i also have a lot problems, sometimes i also don't know how to strike a balance. so what? we are learning from time to time. this time i screw it up, then i learn my lesson, next round, i will perform better. keep that in mind. you can spend 4 years or 8 years to get your degree, its in your hands. ask yourself, do you really put in your effort? if so, do you investigate which part gone wrong? there must be a reason for things to happen. ask yourself or find the right person to ask. don't ask a passer by, they provide nothing but useless information.

while others are being harsh on you, then why you want to be harsh on yourself too? you like double tension? why not treat yourself a bit nicer? try to relax yourself, and think of how to defeat and fight back, not making yourself even worse. calm and seek a solution, keep on the negative thinking bring you to no where but to self destruction. why not give yourself a chance?

when people are looking down on you and being jibbing you with guffaw laugh, then try to improve yourself with knowledge, it is the best defence and bulwark. make the negative become a motivation for you, and use it as a tool to bring you to upgrade yourself. isn't it good when you being scolded and laugh by others? don't you realize that you did learn some valuable lesson from that? isn't that a benefit and windfall for you? everything comes with two sides, just like ying and yang, good and bad co-exist together. if all the time you can only see the bad side, then forever you will be a loser, because YOU CHOOSE TO BE ONE. no one choose for you to be a loser, but YOURSELF. no one ever look down on you, but you lose your confidence and self-esteem at the first place. same issue, if you never respect yourself, why others want to respect you?

words can heal or kill, i don't have to be a wise man to tell you all these. every reasonable man can tell you this. the question at hand is whether you walk the talk. you can be negative for the whole life, but ask yourself, do you deserve this and don't you agree that you have the ability to work out something better and deserve a wonderful life instead of sharing the sucking life with those street jerks?

no one is idiot or moron, for me. the only hardship is walk the talk, and laziness is always the main enemy. myself in the same dilemma as well. sometimes when we losses our strength and hope seems to be so frail, regardless of your faith, just pray and talk to yourself (don't talk like man in insanity). when i said talk, you can use my method, (hahaha like conducting a lecture), first take a piece of paper, then start to write (1), ask yourself an question, then move on to (2), question again, keep it on until you are out of questions, then anon, re-arrange the questions as according to priority, the question you think is the most crucial to you then put it to ONE, then search for second importance and so on. after you done listing out all the dubiety, then go for a walk around at least 1 hour. come back from your rest, take a few minutes rest then go for a shower, take a cold water bath. later, move your ass to the chair and start answering the questions. you must try hard to come out at least a solution for each question. let's say you can't make it, it is okay, keep it in the desk and tomorrow when you back, then only have a thought for it.

i will tell you the reason after you done all these and after one month i will give you the reason. trust me, give it a try.

Rome not built in one day, my friend. From the sublime to the ridiculous is only a step, you can either poke a monkey out of yourself or become one as think the sun shine from his arse. All depends on how you handle the difficulties. hardship makes us grow, but contrary it can make you tumble and crumble as well. there is always a knight with a shining armour for everyone, you are a Christian, then retrieve the strength from HIM. i am somehow lending my ears to you and giving you some moral support only. you are the one that holding the sword to rage and conquer the realm.

when you hold still and have a strong faith in you and HIM, you will be able to overcome and overturn everything. there is no reason to make yourself demoralize, degraded and inferior. don't let anything to hurl you into the self--destruction dilemma. make hay while the sun shines, and don't waste time to think of all these minute issues and full of hot air. we have better and importance things to do, not to deal with all these bitty things. don't make your view be limited to all these, have a bird view. If the mountain will not come to you, you must go to the mountain. what you reap is what you sow, there is never a windfall.

how can you focus and have a sharp view when your mind is full with all sorts of issues and everything is in mist? you can never see things clearly unless and until you remove the veil and obstacles.

you have your target and goal, set the arrow to the bull's eye and fire. work towards it and do not stop half--way and look back. never allow second thought to enter your mind, the moment you start to allow the second thought to come in, you will tends to ask yourself whether you are in the right path and doing the right things. if you are firm with your ambition, then why stop yourself? why let the demon to play a fool game in your mind? stay cool and acts firm. no second say.

you will enjoy the juice of fruit of success after you shed your tears and blood and sweat. that is the best fruit you ever had. the taste of success is totally depends on how much is your effort. i am talking about proportionality. taste of success and effort always strike a very balance in the scale of balance. if you hits a success easily, will you enjoy the satisfaction? just be honest and ask yourself.

greater challenge will make you a better man. feeling insignificant and inferior just drag you even lower rank of position. self--confidence is a key for you to enter the room of success. everything must pay a price, and the price including the laughter, demoralization, humiliation, self-inclination and break faith. only when you can overcome all these, then you learn your lesson well. sometimes you have to permit yourself to be a bull--headed. stick to the principle that you uphold and your believe. follow the legal and right path that the sagas pointed to you, let them lead you.

thinking negative definitely cause your life to be miserable. It's no use crying over spilled milk, whatever past, just let it be passed. buried them with the negative thinking and make it a lesson to remind yourself. start a fire of new hope and bring a new life to yourself. let's the flame make you fame. fire up yourself with the flame of pure and enthusiastic spirit to achieve your dream.

make you proud of yourself, uphold your pride and dignity, don't let them be excrement. never put yourself to be one step forward and two steps back. don't always shit a brick of what you do, be brave, it is worth to try, even you fail, at least still you learn a lesson, whether it is a hard one.

bread always falls on the buttered side, if you continue to be like this, you will never get over it and worsen the situation. make the changes, you should be the master of your mind, not letting the mind to slavery you. we always heard "master of mind", do you ever heard of "mind of master"?

today's challenge will be tomorrow's weapon. the hardship you undergone will determine how you settle and handle the incoming and awaiting troubles later. today you only can defend but tomorrow you can attack after you learn the tricks. isn't this the same analogy when we play computer game, such as "DOTA" or "counter"? don't play computer game if it just killing your time, i learn a lot of theories and concepts even when i am playing game. the concept of life can learn from everywhere.

knowledge and experiences will make us stands out from others and stand head and shoulders above the rest. "an apple a day, keep doctor away", i am sure you know this if you read my blog or heard from somewhere, i modified it to "a challenge a day, keep incoming trouble away". same trick don't works twice, right?

i can talk the hind legs off a donkey for this matter. i am glad and gratitude that you fend for my "advices" and honestly, i am motivating myself at the same time. one stone two birds. although most of the time we have to burn the candle at both ends just to trigger a whim or caprice to solve a trouble, but when the idiot trick occur again, we just know how to hurl it to the end straight away. isn't this astonishing? face the challenge with confidence and knowledge, don't let the wick minded pull your legs.

i shall stop my undertone and murmuring here, or i will become a preacher at one hand and a monk at another hand. sorry that being a babble old man. hahahaha.