"If you work harder, you will get luckier" per Anita Sarawak dictum.

sometimes i just can't tell if it is concern or busybody. when we start to have first date at 17, people will say we are too young, it is just a puppy love, don't be so serious, ok , fine, when reach 21 and have another new date, people will say come on dude, you still young, why want to commit yourself just to one girl? why want to sacrifice the jungle for just one tree? career should be the priority before girl, i start to confuse. by the age before 25, all the very concern relatives start asking why you still not yet marry? when u plan to marry and settle down, they will again say to you and ask you to re-consider, there is always a better one somewhere....later when you reach the middle age, people will start to gossip at your back, there must be something wrong with this guy, so old still not yet marry, must be too fussy, choosy or the worst is you are gay or even impotent! What the hell, is it marry a must? what if you just marry a wrong person? who can guarantee that your better half will be the perfect "better" half? what if it is not "better half" but it is a "disaster half"?
i strongly believe that if you really want to commit yourself in a marriage, then you should give your (100+1)% to carry your duty as a husband and wife. marriage should be very beautiful, holy, and full of responsibilities. it should be built on trust and love. i really pity you, my dear friend, in my opinion, you treat marriage as a trade, a business and a transaction. i don't know how long your marriage can last, for me, marriage is a life time promise to each other, and nothing can replace the love, not even diamond or any monetary material.
u are so concern about what people will judge on you and your wife, but ask yourself, is it really matter? is money and family background such an important factors for you to choose your life partner? why not love? why the money can over love? is money really can buy love? i will still wish you all the best even i don't agree with you.
some are even worse, they just get into marriage not because of love, but the pressure from the over concern relatives. you should hold on to yourself, only when you meet your Juliat, then you give your best shot. why to hurry yourself? even two of you still can divorce later, but what will happen to the innocent child? you guys ever think of that?
for me, love and trust, the promise to hold us together until the end of our life. they are the cornerstone of the marriage, i don't care whether i can have a luxury lifestyle, so long as i can spend the rest of my life with my beloved one until the end of the world.
i never meant to pinpoint anyone, for all my friends, i still wish all of you the best, but for all the very young people, please hold on your decision and unless you are very certain and you think you are mature enough to set up a family, then only give it a go. All the Best.