criticism is too hot to handle?
obviously people treat criticism as negate their endeavor, but objectively palpably diagnose it, compliment and criticism just as two sides of the same coin. people can critic you because they loathe you, or may be because they are fond of you. the way you judge the so called critics depend on your wisdom. the issue is rather black or white. critics can make you see the true picture and grow on you, contrary, it can make you sick at heart.
before you react to the critics, why don't you take a deep breath and try to get a mind like a steel trap? it is useless to breath fire. when you let your emotion to take over your mind, advise to you will turn to caviler. i am not a nitpicker. my intention is merely to highlight the tediousness and discord feeling of the majority and seeking solace solution. the title you have in front of your name just indicate your education level, but it never show your intelligence, the elucidation from you might not necessarily be the bee's knee. sometimes hoi polloi opinion will spark an idea for you. so why not start to listen to others? people with bended knees will learn more than those toffee-nosed.
if you want people to respect you, you have to respect yourself in the first place.
October 24, 2008 at 8:47 AM If it is a constructive criticism, I can always accept it with my open heart. But if the criticism is nonsense and baseless, I will defending myself until the end of the battle (if I am right in the matter).
Some people cannot accept the criticism due to their arrogant and ego attitude that thought that they are the one who always right. In some the situation, we outsiders people can see the things clearer than those people who are involving the matter/issue. But sadly to say that these group of people's cups are too full already and not able to accept any new criticism nor advice anymore.
For this type of people, normally I will just give up on them and let them be. Let them taste the consequences that they created due to their wrong decision making then only will learn and grow from the lesson. We are not GOD that has authority to change or judge everybody in this world.
Anyway, nobody is perfect in this world. Don't just hate people just because of their rejection to accept our criticism. Everybody has their own choices in their life. If they feel your criticism is not good nor suitable for them, and insist to go on with their own style, let them be. They can learn slowly and gradually from their own mistakes from time to time. Friendship won't be affected coz of this factor. It just avoid to advise him/her. We are not dictator nor Hitler that force everybody in this world to listen to our advise. WE CAN ALWAYS SHOW OUR CONCERNS BY ADVISING AND CRITICIZING (advise in proper way, but not shout nor ordering people) THOSE THAT WE LOVE, BUT STILL IT'S THEIR CHOICE WHETHER TO LISTEN TO US.
Next time when people not willing to accept your criticism, why don't just open your heart and let it be? =) We can always choose for more beautiful life and happier life path to go on. Why need to feel angry for those people who never appreciate your concerns? Think from another perspective. You will always feel the people around you are not bad at all. It just different people having different character. Life is always as simple as it be. =)
October 24, 2008 at 5:28 PM yes, i agreed on your points, i seldom criticize people unless those i care. i try to supply some advices and turn out to be critics in their eyes of view. its absolutely fine for me. why should i care if you are nobody? some people even age like dinosaur still cannot figure it out.
October 24, 2008 at 7:16 PM First time you agree with me :P
October 24, 2008 at 8:52 PM i always agree with u, u are my lucky star, remember? i nvr dissent with any brilliant ideas from the quick-witted genius.
October 24, 2008 at 10:22 PM Hahaha... THanks for the compliment =) Anyway, your blog sometimes is really nice to read.. Many thinkings and emotions expressions =)
October 24, 2008 at 10:24 PM Anyway, I dropped a comment in your blog titled " System and Attitude". Hope that comment will make you feel happier :P
October 24, 2008 at 11:53 PM kekekekeke, i take it as compliment, thank you, bow to you.