"If you work harder, you will get luckier" per Anita Sarawak dictum.

marriage is a necessity?
family is an obligatory?
offspring is a responsibility?

is marriage guaranty a happy family?
is family warranty a responsible offspring?

how certain are you that s/he is the one that will hold your hands til the end of days?
how certain are you that s/he is the one that will bring happiness to you til the end of days?

i am not trying to invoke or provoke anyone or anything here. there are too many uncertainties in relationship, especially special relationship. you offer yourself 100%, and do not tell me that you expect nothing from s/he. merely wishing s/he is by your side at any material second, it is still expecting something. in return, do you get back 100% from s/he? there is no measurement tool to be a yardstick in this issue, the question is, what is the balance of probability? people like me will request 100% = 100%, give = take or sow = reap. some people can handle 100% reduced to 50% or even lesser. sacrifice is the word for people belong to this group. contradictory, some people will invest with 50% or lesser but 100% in return.

the maths thing seems complicated. i am not a love guru, what i can do, the best, is just lending the ears to you, and the shoulder to you. do not fend for me to retrieve you from the sorrow that you suffer. there is nothing much that i can do, i am powerless and helpless as you in the love affair. it is so wonderful to have someone to love and someone to care about. man make the woman perfect, and woman make the man complete. this is my personal ideology. without each other, everything is imperfect. although sometimes imperfection is consider as belle, but not in all senses.

you might not 100% love your another half, but if you were married, you better be 100% for your family, that is my beholding. you do not have to construe the meaning. everyone is mixing and matching around, until you figure the best one that match you. everyone deserve the best one. you have the right to pull or push. on or off, is decided by you. take it or leave it. simple and easy.

if we are click, then we can try to have a trial and rehearsal. if we make it, then everything is settle. if not, then moves on and search for another. life goes on, as someone told me before. i absolutely agreed with it. instead of wasting time to linger with the dubiety that carry the unknown result, i would rather spending my precious time to seek for another. we always have a choice, ain't we? i may miss the good one, but who can guaranty that the better one is not ahead?

i do believe in faith, but not fate, at least in this matter.